Can u tell if a girl hits on you at the first glance exchange of you both? Nine out of ten, I can. Ummh, I just can. Strangely, I am born to be a mind-reader. For those enticing hints, I turned a blind eye to some, smiled back to others and didn’t know what to do with the rest. But that’s not what I am going to talk about today, nor will I start a tirade on love-at-the-first-sight issues.

I am going to talk about being proactive or reactive. It doesn’t take a genius to conclude that most people fall into the second category. Unfortunately, I am one of them. My first official job, for example, vividly proves this to myself. I didn’t take the move to choose my specialty. I didn’t get the nerve to earn the proper position that fits me well. Instead, I took things as they came. I was at a passively disadvantage. And I am pay for that. “Prevention is better than cure.” This saying can be considered both proactive and reactive. For one thing, we know what to do and what not to do based on our past experience, and prepare for the worst. This is a worthwhile shot. For another, we are boggled in our hesitation by spending too much on prudent precaution, which is reactive. We simply refuse to admit that there could be other ways out only because we are so afraid of a change and uncertain about tomorrow.

More often than not, the worst part is we don’t know what we want. Then find yourself a mentor, slow down for the time being and find out the rooted causes. I am not a consultant or something. Whenever I feel disoriented, I got my own therapy. Locking myself in a room, I put myself together and list the top10 issues that are tormenting me, which is not always useful though. Internal peace is what I want as a consequence.

To sum up with the same metaphor, responding to a signal from a girl is reactive while starting to send the signal is the otherwise. For those who want to be in charge of their own destiny, I suggest the second option. The trick is, when you get the expected feedback; don’t forget to turn off your charm a little bit. : >

个人倾向于 对眼的就直白点 一拍即合最最好 没可能就及早转移火力 免得误己误人~